Now that you landed a date, that’s a huge accomplishment!
The fun begins now. Your first date is very important, but don’t sweat over it. The objective of the first date is to get to know each other better to assess whether you’d want to see that person again.
At the same time, you’d want to make it as fun and pleasant as possible for you and your partner. Below are some tips to follow to give yourself a pleasant first date experience and most importantly, to make a dynamite first impression on your date.
1. Have a plan and do plan ahead
It’s a turn on for most women to see a man that takes charge and in control of things. So make sure you make the necessary reservation for dinner and know exactly the schedule for the event or movie.
2. Go somewhere fun
Rather than the usual boring dinner and movie routine, be a little adventurous and take her someplace where you both can experience something fun and have a chance to interact and talk. Some good places/events include going to a horse race, an amusement park, a comedy show, a concert, a fair, art show.
3. Dress for the occasion and look presentable
The important thing is that you look neat, clean, and presentable. When you look good, you feel more confident about yourself. If you’re stuck for ideas, try a nice blazer with a collared shirt and a dark pair of jeans.
4. Be on time
Try to plan on arriving 15 minutes before your scheduled time, in case there’s traffic. And if you are late for some unforeseen reason, call immediately to let her know the situation.
5. Show good manners
Good manners are still sexy. Be respectful, civilized, attentive and give her your 100% attention. Don’t talk too much, talk too loud, or make noises while eating. Also, put your phone away! It’s rude to be texting your buddies or checking sports scores on ESPN.com while you’re on a date! In summary, try to be on your best behavior!
6. Have a pleasant and positive attitude
Do not whine or complain about anything on the first date (even if it takes a little longer for your food to arrive). Smile often and be cheerful. Your positive vibes will lighten up the mood and make her feel at ease and comfortable.
7. What to talk about on your first date
The first date is the opportunity for you to get to know your date and vice versa. So ask about her hobbies, her interests, her passions, where she went to school, what are her favorite things to do on a rainy day, where has she traveled to, what’s her favorite country to visit and why, who are her role models, etc. Remember to focus the conversations on light and fun stuff.
Don’t ask questions that are too personal and don’t pry. Also, avoid talking about religion, politics, past relationships, and any negative things. Finally, don’t reveal too much about yourself. Save that for future dates. You want to maintain a certain level of mystery, which makes you more interesting.
8. Be honest and be yourself
Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. Don’t lie about your status, your accomplishments and don’t brag. There’s nothing more turn off than bragging and thinking too highly of yourself.
Final thoughts
Alright, above are some basic first date tips to follow. Just remember to not put too much pressure on yourself.
Relax, have fun, and try to put your date at ease with your humor, your calm demeanor, and your upbeat and positive attitude. If the date goes well and there are chemistry and sparks, you may even get a kiss!